I want every believer on earth to be concerned about the salvation of those around them, but I have met many who are not. I decided early in my ministry that I would not become judgmental towards those Christians for three reasons.
First, I’d never met a critical or judgmental person who is enjoyable to be around. People avoid them more than gravitate toward them. From a very practical standpoint, why then become the kind of person someone wants to avoid. It’s not a great way to make friends and influence people. Simply put, judgmental people are no fun, so I don’t want to be that kind of person.
Secondly, if I become judgmental and critical of those who don’t have a heart for the lost, I focus on a problem, not a solution. This is always fruitless. If I see a problem, I need to focus on how to solve it, not spend my day consumed about the problem itself. Does that ever work in this area! For example, I have found believers sometimes do not have a heart for the lost because they’re afraid that they cannot evangelize or simply don’t know how. In other words, they care about the lost more than it appears, but they are so intimidated by evangelism. If I approach these believers with a caring attitude and helpful input, I see positive results. As they begin evangelizing, their heart for the lost increases.
Lastly, I choose to grant grace to those who don’t seem to have a heart for the lost because of Matthew 7:3–5: “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” When one becomes judgmental, he tends to see something that is a problem in someone else’s life, but he fails to see something that may be an even bigger problem in his own life. For example, I know someone who is quick to criticize others for their lack of concern for the lost, but he is failing in his responsibilities as a husband and a father. In pointing out the weaknesses of others, he fails to see an even bigger problem in his own life.
I urge you to respond to these believers biblically and ask God to use you to change them, instead of simply allowing Satan to use you to criticize them.