Question: My husband has no time for Christ or Christianity. If I come to Christ, there is a good chance he’ll leave me. What do I do?
Two cautions. One, there is no one or thing worth being separated from God over. Coming to Christ concerns an issue of where we spend our eternity: “He who believes in the Son has everlasting life; and he who does not believe the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him” (John 3:36).
Because we are sinners we deserve death, which the Bible defines as everlasting separation from God. Jesus Christ—God’s perfect son—took the penalty for our sin by dying on a cross as our substitute and rising again. When we trust Christ to save us, God forgives us of all the wrong we have done and grants us the gift of everlasting life. If we do not trust Christ, we will pay for our sins in eternal separation from God.
Since we are contrasting life on earth to everlasting life, there is nothing worth eternal separation from God. Even if it meant losing your husband, that’s a small price to pay compared to rejecting the free gift of eternal life.
There’s a second caution I would give though. You don’t have to immediately tell your husband about your decision to follow Christ. Nowhere in the Bible does God condition your eternal life on a declaration made to others. You can trust Christ in the privacy of your heart.
Once you trust Christ, ask God to help you live the kind of tranquil, joyful, life that demonstrates a change has occurred. A husband who has no time for Christ or Christianity will still notice the difference Christ makes in your own life and perhaps be won over by your gracious conduct.
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives” (1 Peter 3:1).
In other words, don’t take God’s responsibility on your shoulders. Coming to Christ is your responsibility. Seeing your husband change is God’s responsibility. Do what you know the Lord is telling you to do—trust Christ—and don’t put pressure on your husband to do the same. Just pray for him quietly and consistently every day, asking the Lord for wisdom in your speech. Just as in time God brought you to the Savior, God in time can bring him as well.